reasonable reasons?

I often believe there has to be a reason for this.  Something must have happened to make him bipolar.  It's hard to comprehend he was born with this.

• Is it the result of being an extreme Type A personality?
• Is it upbringing?
• Perfectionism and fear of failure?
• Was he abused as a child?
• Is there some traumatic childhood event that was so awful he cannot recall it?
• Is it someone's fault?  Is there someone I can blame?

Or is it like a disease that one acquires through no fault of his or her own?

I so want to probe and decipher and go back to where it began.  I want to try and change this.  Try and recover whatever's damaged.  Yet I realize that is most likely impossible.  I don't have that power or advantage.

I am a fixer.  I am a helper.  That's what I do.  I like to solve problems and this is a big one.  I don't like the inconvenience it provides my husband.  I don't like the way it makes him feel.  So I search and ponder and wonder.

Is there a reason?  Or is it......some people are bipolar.  Most are not.  But some are.  Live with it.